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Hej och varm välkomna till onlinemötet Sunda relationer som är en del av Co-dependens Anonymous.
Mitt namn är ………. och jag är medberoende. Jag är även er mötesledare idag.
Detta möte håller på i en timme. Mötet kommer att hållas på samma sätt som ett fysiskt möte. Och för att få bästa Face-to-Face upplevelse rekommenderar vi att ni väljer "Gallery wiew" i övre högra hörnet.
Vårt främsta syfte är att tillfriskna från vårt medberoende tillsammans. Vi ber er att tysta er mikrofon genom att trycka på knappen i nedre vänstra hörnet när ni inte delar.
När ni vill dela sätter ni bara på er microfon.
Låt oss öppna detta möte med en stunds tystnad följt av CoDAs inledningsbön.

The CoDA Opening Prayer
In the spirit of love and truth, we ask our Higher Power to guide us as we share our experience, strength and hope. We open our hearts to the light of wisdom, the warmth of love, and the joy of acceptance.
The leader reads the Preamble
The Preamble of Co-Dependents Anonymous
Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery -- learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors. We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege. This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives.

We want to welcome you who are new, if you are on your first second or third CoDA meeting, we ask you to introduce yourself by saying your first name.
The leader reads this welcom
The Welcome of Co-Dependents Anonymous
We welcome you to Co-Dependents Anonymous, a program of recovery from codependence, where each of us may share our experience, strength, and hope in our efforts to find freedom where there has been bondage and peace where there has been turmoil in our relationships with others and ourselves.

Most of us have been searching for ways to overcome the dilemmas of the conflicts in our relationships and our childhoods. Many of us were raised in families where addictions existed - some of us were not. In either case, we have found in each of our lives that codependence is a most deeply rooted compulsive behavior and that it is born out of our sometimes moderately, sometimes extremely dysfunctional family systems. We have each experienced in our own ways the painful trauma of the emptiness of our childhood and relationships throughout our lives.
We attempted to use others - our mates, friends, and even our children, as our sole source of identity, value and well being, and as a way of trying to restore within us the emotional losses from our childhoods. Our histories may include other powerful addictions which at times we have used to cope with our codependence.
We have all learned to survive life, but in CoDA we are learning to live life. Through applying the Twelve Steps and principles found in CoDA to our daily life and relationships ­ both present and past - we can experience a new freedom from our self defeating lifestyles. It is an individual growth process. Each of us is growing at our own pace and will continue to do so as we remain open to God's will for us on a daily basis. Our sharing is our way of identification and helps us to free the emotional bonds of our past and the compulsive control of our present.
No matter how traumatic your past or despairing your present may seem, there is hope for a new day in the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous. No longer do you need to rely on others as a power greater than yourself. May you instead find here a new strength within to be that which God intended - Precious and Free. 


The Twelve Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous is the spiritual foundation of our recovery. Can any volunteer to read CODA 12 steps for us?
  1. We admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.


The Twelve Traditions of Co-Dependents Anonymous is the spiritual principles on which our community rests upon.
Can any volunteer be kind to read them to us?
  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon CoDA unity.
  2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority -- a loving higher power as expressed to our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
  3. The only requirement for membership in CoDA is a desire for healthy and loving relationships.
  4. Each group should remain autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or CoDA as a whole.
  5. Each group has but one primary purpose -- to carry its message to other codependents who still suffer.
  6. A CoDA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the CoDA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim.
  7. A CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
  8. Co-Dependents Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
  9. CoDA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
  10. CoDA has no opinion on outside issues; hence the CoDA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
  11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.
  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions; ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

Patterns and Characteristics of Codependence
The following checklist is offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation. It may be particularly helpful to newcomers as they begin to understand codependency. It may aid those who have been in recovery a while to determine what traits still need attention and transformation.

Denial Patterns
Codependents often:

  • have difficulty identifying what they are feeling.
  • minimize, alter, or deny how they truly feel.
  • perceive themselves as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others.
  • lack empathy for the feelings and needs of others.
  • label others with their negative traits.
  • think they can take care of themselves without any help from others.
  • mask pain in various ways such as anger, humor, or isolation.
  • express negativity or aggression in indirect and passive ways.
  • do not recognize the unavailability of those people to whom they are attracted.

Low Self-esteem Patterns
Codependents often:

  • have difficulty making decisions.
  • judge what they think, say, or do harshly, as never good enough.
  • are embarrassed to receive recognition, praise, or gifts.
  • value others’ approval of their thinking, feelings, and behavior over their own.
  • do not perceive themselves as lovable or worthwhile persons.
  • seek recognition and praise to overcome feeling less than.
  • have difficulty admitting a mistake.
  • need to appear to be right in the eyes of others and may even lie to look good.
  • are unable to identify or ask for what they need and want.
  • perceive themselves as superior to others.
  • look to others to provide their sense of safety.
  • have difficulty getting started, meeting deadlines, and completing projects.
  • have trouble setting healthy priorities and boundaries.

Compliance Patterns
Codependents often:

  • believe people are incapable of taking care of themselves.
  • attempt to convince others what to think, do, or feel.
  • freely offer advice and direction without being asked.
  • become resentful when others decline their help or reject their advice.
  • lavish gifts and favors on those they want to influence.
  • use sexual attention to gain approval and acceptance.
  • have to feel needed in order to have a relationship with others.
  • demand that their needs be met by others.
  • use charm and charisma to convince others of their capacity to be caring and compassionate.
  • use blame and shame to exploit others emotionally.
  • refuse to cooperate, compromise, or negotiate.
  • adopt an attitude of indifference, helplessness, authority, or rage to manipulate outcomes.
  • pretend to agree with others to get what they want.

Formatet på det här mötet är ett …
1a veckan i månaden, Traditionsmöte
2a veckan i månaden, Stegmöte
3dje veckan i månaden, Temamöte
4e i månaden, Praktiskt möte, hålls 15 min i början av mötet

Är det någon som har förslag på ett tema för dagen…
Ta emot förslag på Tema, 2-3 st.
Det går även bra att dela om något utöver dagens tema som ligger särskilt varmt om hjärtat.

Vi inleder mötet med att läsa stegbönen och ev en text om dagens steg eller(månad 1 steg 1, månad 2 steg 2 osv)
Därefter delar vi om steget, Det går även bra att dela om något utöver dagens tema som ligger särskilt varmt om hjärtat.
Steg bön (fins i dokumentet Step 1-12 prayer)
Steg text från CoDAs bok

Nu är det dags att dela vår erfarenhet, vår styrka och vårt hopp. Det är fria delningar.
In our meetings, we speak about our own experience, and we listen without comment to what others share. We work toward taking responsibility for our own lives, rather than giving advice to others.

Vi kommer att dela upp tiden mellan oss.

(Dela tiden på antal deltagare, kom ihåg att vi ska avsluta delaningarna 19.55)
Var snäll att håll din delning till max ... minuter så vi alla hinner dela. Jag kommer att vinka när tiden närmar sig sitt slut. När ni vill dela sätter ni på er microfon. Vi ber er att tysta er mikrofon genom att trycka på knappen i nedre vänstra hörnet när ni inte delar.

5 minuter innan utsatt sluttid.
Det var tyvärr all tid vi hade idag.
Ni kan nu alla sätta på era mikrofoner igen.

Fick du inte dela eller behöver mer tid tala med någon som har tid efter mötet.
Finns det några CoDA relaterade meddelanden till gruppen?
Ni som inte presenterat er med förnamn via delning eller meddelande får gärna göra det nu.

Vi har en hemlig Facebooksida, vill du vara med i den så meddelar du detta. (Du behöver bli vän på Facebook med en grupmedlem så kan hen lägga till dig)
Praktiskt inför kommande möte

  • Vem kan leda nästa möte?
  • Om det är steg- eller traditionsmöte kommande möte,
    Kom ihåg att ta fram en stegtext som kan läsas på mötet.

Har vi någon nykomlingsansvarig på plats?
CoDAs 12 steg gör man tillsammans med en sponsor. Har vi några tillgängliga sponsorer på plats här idag?
Om inte har vi sponsoransvarig på plats?
Låt mig påminna er om vår 7e tradition, att vi är självförsörjande genom egna bidrag. Dessa skall täcka mötesrummet och hemsidans drift. Eventuelt överskott går till CoDA Sverige. Vi ber er att lämna era bidrag via Swischa på 070-6425410 eller sätta in på vårt konto, information om detta finner ni under fliken 7e traditionen här på hemsidan.
Jag vill tacka er som deltog och gjorde detta möte möjligt med en varm applåd.
Vi avslutar mötet med sinnesrobönen i vi-form.

The CoDA Closing Prayer
We thank our Higher Power, for all that we have received from this meeting.
As we close, may we take with us the wisdom, love, acceptance, and hope of recovery.

CoDa relaterade nerladdningsbara dokument

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